Tori's grandfather, "Pop", has not been well lately.He was diagnosed with lung cancer about a month and a half ago. Everyone was scared to death, understandably. Then - GOOD NEWS! - they caught it early enough to wipe it out in surgery.
The surgery was a success....of sorts. The cancer was gone. But he picked up an infection somewhere along the way, so had to stay in the Hospital. The infection got to a point to where he was put on a respirator.
Tori and the boys went to Hernando early Friday afternoon (before the snow) - he had a stroke that night.
My mamma(sic) recently suffered a stroke. It's not pretty. She has no idea who her own children are. She can barely figure out how to eat on her own and has not yet gone to the bathroom on her own since the stroke. Luckily(?) she is walking again and talking much better than she was. She may not be able to call you by name, but there seems to be at least the air of familiarity there.
At least that's what I keep telling myself...
Things do not seem to be boding so well for "Pop". If he lives through them taking off the respirator, he will no doubt be at the very least bed-ridden. They take him off tomorrow.
Tori is VERY upset. It kills me to see, or hear rather, her like this. I have recently started a new job (Feb. 1). I just don't feel like I can take off to head up there without him passing. I know that sounds weird, but I'm thinking if I go up there for 2 days or so to comfort her, come back, then he passes, and I have to go back up there, that my new employer will not look favorably upon that.
Pros:I don't really know "Pop". I've talked to him on maybe a handful of occasions - and never really at any length. Hardy & Cannon have no idea who he is, either. So I wouldn't really be going up there, even in death, for him - but for her. to comfort her. And it seems like she needs comforting now....
New Employer and I are longtime friends.
New Employer is very understanding about family.
Cons:
The business shuts down without me there, pretty much.
I'm torn.
3 comments:
I think you should go. You aren't going for Pop, you are going for Tori. Your new boss will understand, I am sure. Plus, you can always get a new job. You can never relive this moment the "right" way for Tori.
Relationship with your wife must come ahead of anything. I know you know this, I hope you don't feel like I am "giving advice". I think I know where you are at, and I can look back and tell you, that yes the ob suffered, but the relationship got stronger. I am praying for you and for Tori.
that would be JOB not ob....got ob on my mind for some reason
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